‘Love is blind’ how Zenab Cole tried to control what she ate

By | November 10, 2022

Spoiler alert: This post contains spoilers for Reunion Episode 3 of “Love Is Blind” now on Netflix.

Zanab Jaffrey never looked back. She rejected her fiancé at the altar during her wedding to Cole Barnett in the third season episode 11 of “Blind Love”.

When she confirmed that she loved Jaffrey Barnett, she didn’t hold back in expressing her choice. “You disrespected me. You insulted me. You scolded me. And, for what it’s worth, you single-handedly shattered my confidence,” she said.

Jaffrey, 32, and Barnett, 27, are stuck in a pod over their shared faith. Things seem to go smoothly on their first meeting: “You’re beautiful,” Barnett gushes before showering Jaffrey with a kiss.

But the pair quickly ran into problems along the way, especially when Barnett told Jaffrey she was a “nine out of 10”, after which contestants Raven Ross and Colin Reed said they were “10s”. The tension escalates when Barnett tells Reed of his attraction to her, and he repeatedly (to what he seems to hear) says that Jaffrey wasn’t the girl he usually liked.

“I asked for a girl named Rain,” he told Jaffrey. “I thought Rain was similar to the girls I met before, Lily?” During an argument, things came to a head when Barnett asked Jaffrey if she was bipolar.

During the reruns, Geoffrey Barnett said she felt like she was trying to control what she ate, saying she stopped eating and would only eat “a banana and a teaspoon of peanut butter” on long days of filming.

In her first interview, Jaffrey said: Difference Some of the season’s most jaw-dropping moments, including her response to Cole’s much-publicized criticism of her physical and mental state.

It was shocking when Cole called you a “nine out of 10.” How did you reflect on that moment, and did he make other comments along the same lines that we didn’t see on the show?

Obviously, there are too many hours of footage and not all of it works. There were times when they were just as embarrassed. You know, nine times out of 10 I think it’s going to be okay. But when you get the followup that there were two 10-out-of-10s in a group of five women, that doesn’t really add up statistically. This was a good foreshadowing of what was to come for us. I really struggled, “Oh, if you don’t think I’m 10 out of 10, we’re on a bad footing now.” Obviously I loved him. It hurts to hear.

Cole constantly brought up that you weren’t the type of girl he usually liked. At one point, a man named Rain said he knew he didn’t look like his ex-girlfriends named “Lily”. Some viewers interpreted this to mean that he only likes white women. Was that your view?

Yes, very much. They all heard it. Looking back, I’m like, wow, I didn’t hear him sound like anybody else. I got hundreds of messages saying, “This is what he said.” In the heat of the moment, I didn’t necessarily listen. But we were discussing the women he had dated in the past. There was a lot of talk about how I didn’t look or live.

At the reunion, you talked about Cole developing some unhealthy eating habits as a result of trying to control what he ate. Can you explain how it affected you?

I like him. What he was saying hurt me. I was somehow trying to make myself desirable to him, be it skinnier… [pauses and takes a deep breath] I’ve never had someone talk to me like that about my body or eating. That was very true for me. I have changed what I eat. I was eating a banana. I lost weight on the wedding day. It had nothing to do with fitting my wedding dress.

I am sorry to hear this. how are you now

I am doing well now. Thank you for asking me. I ended the relationship and left him. I was very sad that I was not married. I am sad that I found this great love and a healthy relationship that did not turn into a happy marriage. I realized some things about myself that I was like, “Wow, I need to rebuild myself. I was an affirmation. I have to do that. I need confirmation. I have to come back to myself and encourage myself. So that’s what I did for the last year. I went to therapy after the wedding, because, “When this comes out, I have to watch this again and I don’t want to relive how I feel right now.”

I’ve been in therapy for about a year, and I’ll probably keep going to therapy because I think therapy is good. I took everything that relationship taught me and really poured myself into being selfish this year and loving myself hard and giving myself those affirmations because I never want to be in that low place in a relationship. I want to give myself to someone very healthy and happy.

You said you don’t regret things with Cole and you wouldn’t change a thing. If so, how did you feel the relationship affected you and why?

Cole was the only person for me in that experiment. Our revelation, I loved it. It was very real. I was so happy, and I thought I had found my man. The context I’m trying to say is that I would do it again and choose it again knowing the outcome. He sent me on a journey. It forced me to dig deep within myself. I learned a lot about myself.

Will I do it again and again? No. But I don’t regret Cole coming into my life. I don’t regret being that happy and in love with him once. Doing it again might be so I can have that high experience with it again knowing where it came from. The direction he set me in life, I think he taught me something. I am choosing to learn from our relationship instead of being angry at him.

During an argument, Cole asks if you are bipolar. How did you handle that trick?

I think it’s very uncalled for. I think dealing with something like mental health, especially with the stigma around mental health – it’s like how you don’t call a woman crazy. I never use that. There’s one thing I believe in conversation: fight cleanly, hit below the belt, don’t say anything you can’t take back. People run with what they hear. I am, or have received many messages claiming to be. too bad . I have received hundreds of messages saying it is something I need to look into now. The internet is a very interesting place.

How do you handle the public’s reaction to you on the show?

My takeaway is that women who have worked on themselves see what that relationship means to me and are very supportive. Of course, you can’t win over everyone. I’ve had a lot of negativity, putting it down and being serious and that I’m not that sad and I have mental health issues. I’m sure it’s too easy for some people to talk about someone’s life when they’ve only seen 45 minutes. I personally wouldn’t do it. I’ve never gone through someone’s inbox and written something nasty.

I am a big fan of other women. I go out of my way to help other women. I think what’s beautiful to see is the number of women who support and see what I see. I think that’s a beautiful community. In a relationship, no one should accept respect.

This interview has been edited and completed.

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